Saturday, August 26, 2006

tuna mornay

mornay - a cheese flavoured cream sauce

i used to eat something when i was in school. i stopped recently because it costs so much in australia. but there are more choices here. so after months of not having a bottle i bought a new flavour last week. and i am enjoying it at this very moment.

i absolutely love baby food. i am at present trying heinz tuna mornay for toddlers. and may i say it is bloody yummy. i usually have the one with fruits like strawberry and banana pudding or good ol' apple sauce. this time i tried something savoury. besides having peas in it ( i hate peas; i couldnt pick them out in the mornay coz its all mashed up..bleh! ) and lacking in salt, its oh so good..

yummy yummy yummy i've got love in my tummy

Wednesday, August 23, 2006

25 going 18

the proclaimers: 500 miles

today is my sister's birthday. happy 25th! if you ask her she'd insist she is 18. she has been for the past 5 years. maybe 6.

she is very different from me. she is tall. i'm not. she's bloody nosey and shamelessly digs out private information from family and friends. i am just not interested in other peoples love lives or penis size ( but i'll eventually find out because she'll tell me against my will ). she's sociable. i dont like people on the whole. gimme a dog anytime.

so to my sister;

our brother is more worried about you than he is of me because he thinks you need his constant protection. he is losing his younger sister and it is hard for him to accept that. so he will do anything to keep us together as kin till the end of our days, even bend his proud head to a stranger for your sake. i wouldnt do it myself. so look at him kindly and dont forget that what you have now is due to him.

our parents sometimes dont sleep at night thinking about you. they, like our brother worry and believe that you will be manipulated by some asshole and they wont be there to save you. but deep inside they are proud of you and love you just the way you are. remember that they are getting older and may not be with us for long. appreciate them for what they done for you in the past and at present, all things great and small. looking at some of the parents here they long for their childrens' independence of them and as soon as they are old enough the kids are 'sent out to the real world' aka kicked out of the house. but most asian parents ours included are willing to give their last pennies to give us opportunities that many cannot dream of. so treat our parents with respect and a little humility. it is the least we can do.

sheryl crow: the first cut is the deepest

you and me..a whole other ball game. we fight a lot and allow insults to fly all over the house. but the bottom line is that we are sisters and always will be. i might not agree with all your decisions but i do respect that it is yours to make. i feel protective over you and think you deserve the best. nothing will ever be good enough for my sister. understand that it is hard for me to just accept any of your decisions that will alter our lives forever. not just yours and mine; everyone's around us. but believe me when i say that i will respect it and wont try to question your judgement. like most, i just need a little adjustment.

il divo: ami manera ( my way )

i hope you have a good birthday. i know how it feels to be far from home and from loved ones. but as we get older priorities change and responsibilities get heavier upon our shoulders. i know i didnt send you anything but here's something for you on your birthday from one of my favourites.

The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost


Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
and sorry i could not travel both
and be one traveller, long i stood
and looked down one as far as i could
to where it bent in the undergrowth.

Then took the other, as just as fair
and having perhaps the better claim
because it was grassy and wanted wear;
though as for that passing there
had worn them really about the same,

and both that morning equally lay
in leaves no steps had trodden black.
Oh, i kept the first for another day!
yet knowing how way leads on to way,
i doubted if i should ever come back

i shall be telling this with a sigh
somewhere ages and ages hence:
two roads diverged in a wood, and i-
i took the one less travelled by,
and that has made all the difference.

Saturday, August 19, 2006

thank you ma'am

avril lavigne: my happy ending

did you know that thank you ma'am means "a bump or depression in a road"?..i didnt, until i got it in my 'word of the day' subscription email. this is the explanation that goes along with the definition.
"Thank-you-ma'am" might seem like an odd name for a bump in the road, but the expression makes a little more sense if you imagine the motion your head would make as you drove over such an obstacle. Most likely, the jarring would make you nod involuntarily. Now think of the nodding gesture you make when you're thanking someone or acknowledging a favor. The "thank-you-ma'am" road bump is believed to have received its name when someone noted the similarity of those two head bobbing motions.

interesting isnt it?..

anyway, i have not put in an entry in a while now. i had plenty to say but couldnt find the words. thats the truth. i just couldnt find the words in my mind to describe what i have been feeling recently. funny huh..considering i subscribe to Merriam Webster..*nerd alert*

il divo: mama

over the years i have received many comments on the ways i behave towards my friends. apparently i am not caring enough..or another said i do not show that i care openly by asking about their day and what not. i assume everyone like the privacy respected as i would like mine and do not ask intimate details of their problems unless they volunteer it or if i get the feeling they are hesistating open up eventhough they want to. i know sometimes it is difficult to start an awkward conversation or finding the right words to explain one's feelings. been there, done that.

diana king: shy guy

this is how i have always been. i have never pretended to be anything else. i treat all my friends the same, as kindly and fairly as i can. if someone needed a little more attention then they will get it ( without being smothering). they do not ask for it..i observe and conduct myself appropriately to each person and situation.

i am not dense you know..nor do i have a heart of marble. i can only be your friend by being me..not you. but i must count my blessings. eventhough i have been judged, many of my friends have gotten used to me and my ideas. i have a great circle of friends now and each one of them are special to me. of course we have had the occasional tiffs but it is often resolved swiftly and without involving the use of razor-sharp fingernails and fistfuls of hair.

the contours: do you love me

which brings me to a recent episode of tiff-between-friends. basically the issue involved plenty of communication followed by 'more' communication then mis-communication and lastly no communication whatsoever. the two involved are close buddies of mine and they were really best friends themselves. where as one told me one side of the story, the other didnt therefore i only know one side of the story. when i tried to get the second version of the issue without being invasive, i was preceived as judgemental and accusatory..what the hell??.. i was trying to be fair by getting both sides of the story and i get dissed for it??!! well fuck that then.

anyhoo, the one who told me ( lets call this person flamingo ) was trying to get the other ( lets call this one toad ) to talk the problem over many many times. according to flamingo, toad was putting talking off and it was wearying flamingo out which is understandable. now they are trying to move forward from the issue and be friends again. good on you both and i am very happy for you guys! ( finally you idiots!! )

bon jovi: undivided

now what is the point i am trying to make here?..

some time ago flamingo and i had a tiff. i didnt know i had upset flamingo, i found that out asking toad. i was suprised, because i met flamingo earlier that day and she was talking to me and didnt mention about whats bothering her. our short conversations seemed strained and i felt she was avoiding me, thats why i asked toad about it. after toad told me about the issue and many other things that hurt me deeply, i tried to approach flamingo to talk it over. several times. i was blown off at each attempt. after awhile i just stopped. i was tired of this one-sided pursue of resolution. i didnt talk about this to anyone but many of our mutual friends knew about it from flamingo but funnily no one asked me my side of the story. eventually the problem was put behind us, flamingo and i are still good friends today.

barenaked ladies: pinch me

this got me thinking. toad and i both had a fall out with flamingo. but why was it important for flamingo to resolve the issue with toad but not me? am i not a friend too and deserve some sort of closure? just to let you know i am not being bitter or jealous here..just curious ( i know flamingo reads this ). maybe the magnitude of each problem was not the same but shouldnt one treat all thank you ma'ams on the "friendship road" the same?. i understand the frustration and mental agony flamingo is going through now with toad because i went through the exact same thing. flamingo, toad and i just switched roles thats all. what irony.

i mentioned this to flamingo when we were having lunch once. i got no answer...again.

so my dear flamingo, please do not misunderstand my intentions here. i am not trying to dig up old wounds and upset you further. i know by me bringing this up it might just do that and i want you to know that it was very difficult for me to lament this. i am not going to bring this up anymore. and if i forget and do it again you have my permission to bitch slap me. whoever else after reading this, gets pissed at me because you think i am not letting bygones be bygones, you are entitled to your opinions.

over and out.

frank ifield: stardust

Monday, August 07, 2006

iman

tomorrow a dear friend is going home for good..iman is a beautiful, intelligent and caring young woman who befriended me sometime last year. though i didnt get to see her much in the beginning (as we didnt share many classes) i used to hear stories about her from shelby and we would laugh and laugh at iman's antics. early this year we shared some classes and this is when i truly got to know her.

iman is an angel in disguise. she takes the brunt of my bad moods and still smiles at me the next day. the time i needed a friend the most and thought i couldnt rely on anyone iman came to my rescue and picked me up. she didnt take sides..didnt judge..she just listened.

when she goes home tomorrow my world is no longer whole. i seriously doubt that ill ever see her again. though she doesnt live too far away, she will have a new life now..a more exciting journey and i'll miss her terribly.

beth orton: i wish i never saw the sunshine